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7 Common Lies to Stop Telling Yourself to avoid accountability and justify mediocrity and inactivity.

7 Common Lies to Stop Telling Yourself ~ We lie to ourselves each day. We tell ourselves that we’re going to start eating perfectly on Monday. We’re going to start a blog on January 1st. We blame our parents for our current financial mess even though we haven’t lived with our parents for the last 20 years. We live in a culture in which accountability is shunned.

Maybe we believe if we only had a swimming pool, we’d finally be happy, and that happiness would last forever.

These are all lies that we tell ourselves.

The lies you tell yourself are the most damaging lies of all:

1. I’ll be able to pay it off next month, so it’s okay if I buy it now. Using debt to purchase anything is a serious matter. It’s easy to convince yourself that you’ll brown-bag your lunch for the next month or that you won’t go out for 30 days. However, we rarely seem to stick to these promises.
   
   
   1. Debt has tremendous potential to snowball. Avoid using debt as much as possible.
      
      
2. I’ll start on Monday. Whether it’s a diet, a budget, an exercise plan, or any other undertaking, it’s a lie to tell yourself that you’ll start on Monday. Of course, Monday might not be your day of choice. Some people really prefer the first of the month or the first of the year.
   
   
   1. If it’s worth doing at all, it’s worth starting right now. The adage “never put off for tomorrow what can be done today” has excellent validity. If it is worth doing, it is worth doing today. Putting something off for another time in the future is a form of procrastination.
      
      

3. It’s all my parents’ fault. There’s no doubt that some parents are lousy at the job of parenting. But you’ve had plenty of opportunities to put your life back on track. When you blame your present situation on the past, you limit your future. There is plenty you can do today to make your life better. Regardless of what your parents have done, you are going to have to own your destiny at some point.
   
   
4. If I just had _____, everything would be perfect. Once you have the money, body, job, or whatever else you think you need to have a “perfect” life, you’ll likely find something else that you have to have. There’s always another thing waiting behind the thing you currently want. You set yourself up for disappointment and despair when set finite declarations on your happiness and fulfillment. Both happiness and fulfillment are progressive journeys that last a lifetime. You must develop a lucid perspicacity of personal development so that you learn how to celebrate the process as much as reaching the milestone.
   
   
5. I’m different from everyone else. A lot of people believe there’s something wrong with them. And it’s not just something wrong with them; it’s something uniquely wrong with them.
   
   
   1. Everyone is unique, but the similarities between people are far greater than the differences. You’re not that different, and it’s unlikely there’s anything wrong with you that can’t be managed. There is nothing that you will encounter that has not already been conquered by someone else. It may look a bit different in your situation, but the principal components will be the same. You should know that if someone else has done it, so can you.
      
      
6. It’s too late for me. For some things, it might be too late. But it’s not too late for a lot of things. Waiting longer than you should have can make a lot of things less convenient, but that’s not the same as being too late. It just means you’re going to have to work harder or endure more inconvenience.
   
   
   1. There’s a penalty for waiting, but it’s rarely insurmountable. Did you know that 99 percent of Warren Buffet’s wealth was accumulated after his 50^th birthday? You will have to be more committed, and you have less time to waver and waste time, but you can get it done.
      
      
7. The timing isn’t right. The timing is never right, and it’s never going to be right. Do it now while you can. Each day that you wait is another day of delay. You’re not going to live forever, and life never follows your plans anyway. Just do it. There is no such thing as perfect timing. The ideal time to start is the moment you know it needs to be done. Every second that you delay starting is a second wasted. You have 86,400 seconds in each day. How you use those seconds will directly impact your destiny and the outcomes in your life.
   
   

We lie to ourselves to make us feel better. Telling ourselves that we’ll start losing weight on the 1st of the month puts our minds at ease and allows us to eat poorly until that start date. We blame others for our challenges, so we can convince ourselves that it isn’t our fault. The word of the day is accountability

The lies you tell yourself make you your own worst enemy and stop you from making progress in your life. Be honest with yourself and give yourself a chance.

~ Rick Wallace, Ph.D., Psy.D.

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