When Your World Is Spinning Out of Control
If we were to be honest in our assessment of the world in its current state, we would have to admit that we are living in a time of uncertainty. Because uncertainty often breeds fear, it can manifest itself in some highly brutal ways, including social anxiety, hateful rhetoric and even a significant amount of suffering. In fact, we have reached a point in human history where social media feeds are inundated with a constant barrage of all that is wrong with the world. One of the latest uncertainties that has become the source of inquietude is the frustration associated with attempting to ascertain what is “real” news and what is not.
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While uncertainty tends to breed fear and anxiety, there is nothing productive and useful that can be derived from these emotions. In fact, the moment that we acquiesce to fear, we immediately relinquish all control over our emotions, and subsequently our lives — creating a state of existence in which there can be no growth or progress. It is paramount, in this ethereal journey of life, to maintain control of the reigns of our lives, instead of surrendering them to external forces. When we surrender to fear, we immediately take on a victim mentality in which we give our power to outside influences — taking on a mindset that life is happening to us — while sustaining a mentality of self-efficacy will lead to a stable mentality that ensures us that life can only respond to us. When we understand this, we will never become frenetic and unglued when faced with uncertainty and challenging situations.
One of the first things we must do in seizing control of our lives is to understand that there is no circumvention of the vicissitudes of life. Sudden changes and disturbances are inevitable — a natural part of the growth process. In fact, it is in these moments of turbulence and resistance that we experience our greatest growth spurts.
Actually, when we step back and evaluate the very nature of fear in our lives, at the core, it is simply the culmination of our worries and concerns about the movement of external forces in our lives. Whether I am working with clients in my Elevation & Empowerment course, 1-on-1 Coaching or consulting, I consistently reinforce the idea that we are in control of our own destinies. We write the narrative of our future every second of the day, with our thoughts, words and beliefs.
When we allow external forces to cause us to become consumed with fear, we lose our ability to engage life’s challenges in an efficacious manner. So, instead of allowing external forces to control us, we must develop a superior cognizance of the fact that we have the power to effectively manage and master our emotions — to step out of a reality of suffering to live the life that we so strongly desire. I often tell my clients that pain is inevitable, but suffering is a choice.
Although we are not always in a position to control the events that take place in our lives, we definitely have a choice as to how we will respond to them — and that makes all of the difference in the world. Regardless of the level of adversity and chaos that enters our lives, we have the power and the right to disallow it to gain control of our state of mind.
“The rule for all fear is to head straight into it. When you are sailing in a storm, you don’t let the wave hit your boat on the side, you go into the wave and ride it.” ~ Alan Watts
The ability and willingness to head straight into the storm is the difference between those of us who succumb to uncertainty and who consistently thrive in it. While it may seem that life favors some, and neglects others, the truth is that the universe can only respond to the mindset and behavior of an individual — it meets every person at the level of their expectations. Simply put, you get out of life what you demand of it — nothing more.
Take a moment to contemplate the difference between the person who views adversity as a gift and the person who perceives it as an obstacle. The same polarity exists between fear and faith. Both, fear and faith, are focused on the future — conveying something that is currently unknowable, both are experiences of life, and they are both developed from your imagination. The only difference between these two forces is that fear in the result of your imagination without direction and purpose, and faith in the imagination being used to create, with great specificity, what we want in our lives.
In moments of uncertainty, it is our responsibility to understand that uncertainty isn’t simply a feeling — it is actually a habit that we have created by our imagination — allowing us to create shifts in our reality that acknowledges the adversity and uncertainty, but chooses to disagree with it, writing a new narrative that is favorable to us.
When we are able to master faith, it allows us to let go of those things we have no control over, so that we can focus on our response, controlling the things we can make happen to effectively counter the negative reality.
Another approach to the inevitable challenges of life is to assume a constant state of gratitude. When we are in a state of gratitude, it becomes impossible to allow negative situations to dominate our thinking and responses to situations. A heart of gratitude will fuel the desire to give back, leading to a higher spiritual state, a higher frequency and vibration, guarding us against the infiltration of negative thoughts, fears and anxiety.
So, the question is: how are you going to live your life moving forward? I challenge you to make a committed decision to reclaim the reigns of your emotions. Make a commitment to face fear, embrace life’s uncertainties and start to live in a constant state of self-confidence and control. Remember, the only boundaries and limitation that we cannot transcend are the ones we impose upon ourselves.
At the moment you commit to taking back the power that you have been giving to fear and uncertainty, you will develop the capacity to create change in your life, allowing you to have a massive impact on your life and the life of others. ~ Rick Wallace, Ph.D., Psy.D.